And what to say if yes I should reply? At the time, she said she wanted to take a “break” because she no longer felt a “spark” for me. Let’s go back to when the years were golden. 6. My ex bf I contacted him a few weeks ago nd asked wher he is nd stuff. And you also start to question whether you’re really over her or not. It happened a few times, I guess I leave a lasting impression... Ive once came back together with an ex after 4 years... it was fairly akward,and in the end it did not last long. Not some bullshit “Maybe / I think” stuff, no. He actually told me to not to tell anyone about it as me … when i have done the breaking up with my significant others in the past i did clean breaks. pretty awkward talking to someone who thinks they know you and they havent talked to you in 2 and a half years. we were saving to buy a house together and he got cold feet and told me he didn’t want this and ended it. Had you not used no contact, your ex would have looked at your text or call and it would have been nothing out of the ordinary and they would have plenty of practice ignoring you or telling you to leave them alone.. if he doesn’t want it then all i can do is accept his apology n move on. At first, I had no idea who it was from, thats how long ago it was that I last talked to him! Politely answer her questions and keep the conversation going, but don’t stay on it for too long, especially if you’re uncomfortable with the situation. You may even have a slight smirk on your face. Wouldn’t want to do anything to chase her away again, yet she’s the one contacting me, so it’s hard to know how to react. Member since ... my high school love contacted me after a few years of not talking to one another. Don’t force it; just tell yourself that your thoughts are just that – merely thoughts. I’m sorry to hear about you being attached to her son. I talk to her from time to time, she is married with two kids. Welcome to Just Keep The Change – a blog focusing on making every man a better man. Don’t be over excited to hear from her, just be laid back about it. Everyone's already given you a Facebook tutorial. Thoughts? Quit being insecure and work on your self confidence. Going forward after 25 years of marriage, it was my choice to live a full, whole and happy life. She has just contacted me out of the blue 3yrs later says she was thinking slot about me and she’s married now,she was hesitant when I asked if she was happy,she lives in Sydney I’m on the coast instill always think about her and wat if,but she’s married now am I over analyzing she misses talking to me and I her.confused big time she just told me she told her husband she rang me too. He checked my email at 200 am and the last few times i emailed him it was the middle of the night, so its when she is sleeping. Here is what to do when you are ghosted by a boyfriend or girlfriend. He visited her one day and dumped me that night for no good reason. I will say it was worth it. dunno if thats cos he now isn’t talking to me or cos he dunno what to say to that as clearly a mistake on my part. she asked for us (spouses included) to get together for dinner or something, but i said no. Be honest. he said he always wishes me well, doesn’t think anything bad of me and is glad to know I’m okay and left it on night night, and not goodbye. “I did take it seriously. It didn’t mean anything. Brandon, honestly, your girlfriend was either cheating or ready to cheat. And yet the single best way to accelerate the healing process after a breakup or divorce is this: Stop contact with the ex. only used a few times. My situation is that I was in a 5 and a half year relationship which ended after we had about a year and a half of ups and downs which I believe was due to a lot of negative outside influences such as my ex being in hospital for periods of time and falling out with her family. Trick is to just stay strong. Did you say something wrong? Now my ex hates me. I must admit, this caster Robinson buckler is real. They might have even blocked you. After all, because of the possible discrepancies between your own needs and desires and those of your ex, you should proceed in a way that's respectful of your own emotional health and well-being. A lot of it. I’m not worried that he puts her in the same category as me; I’m worried that he holds her in a higher esteem than me. I know that I am threading on deep waters here, but I just thought that this simple advice can help some people, as it has helped me. The key is to know your worth more, and deserve a better relationship. Just as many people reunite after 10 years apart (which could still be in their twenties) as 40 years apart. Why start on a journey that leads to a destination of putting you further behind in the End? ... May 15, 2017 at 12:12 pm. And yet the single best way to accelerate the healing process after a breakup or divorce is this: Stop contact with the ex. He was also a med student from a different college , good looking and his family is seriously rich. Its been 12 years and I never found a nice person I have been quite unhappy. This is the email from Rosalia: “Hi Alex, just got to the office today and there was an email from out-of-the-blue from my Ex boyfriend who’d dumped me for another woman almost 10 years ago. That doesn’t mean that you should blindly accept anything life or God throws at you – sometimes you need to fight. I was of course devastated . Interestingly enough, she has tried to contact me after that, too. Don’t even waste your time if the relationships had good memories it wouldn’t have ended so don’t waste your time what do they want who gives a shit if they done u wrong don’t wast time in.a phone call I going threw same thing and I’m done just don’t fail in your self there clearly unhappy and about the power thing if that’s what people gain it’s a joke and hurtful feeling get hurt just be done. The important thing is that it has no meaning; she could have had millions of reasons to contact you. some things are just not meant to be. My present relationship has been abusive at times in the past and I am afraid it could be again. I know its hard when you have strong feelings for that person, but trust me, if you dont heed my warning a significant amount of time will pass and you’ll regret having not stayed away from her now. This is just her defense mechanism, she is just not able to let you go NOW, but time will come when she is emotionally ready to leave you for ever and then ur dead in the water, so before that situation arises make everything clear, and stand up like a man, dont be confused with a confused girl. Maybe I am kind of in the greyland. Relax! i don't have feelings for her, but i just didn't see the point in trying to re-make a friendship together. H said we were not as compatible as we thought etc etc. I'm actually considering doing the same but I wouldn't even know where to begin with all the people I'd have to get in touch with and i'm a little too set in my ways at the moment. it's kinda weird because after all this time i have never been the one to try and reconnect with her. She confessed that her first operation as a kidnapper started with her ex-boyfriend who refused to marry her after years of courtship. i Emailed Robinson.buckler when my boyfriend departed from me. Wht the hell he wants ? As for the actual conversation, just be casual and friendly. no contact. She may feel insecure in the fact that you broke up. i can picture my wife sitting there thinking 'so this was my husbands first love', and although my wife would not have any problem with an occasional get together ( she's far from the jealous type) i just couldn't do that to her. Well, there are many reasons why your ex still contacts you other than for obvious reasons. I know.I’m an idiot. A call like that can really stir up your mind, and usually be pretty confusing when you start thinking about it. January 17, 2018 at 10:31 pm. Maybe she was struck by the thought that you were sick, maybe she missed you, maybe she felt alone or maybe she had an abundance of energy and had to use it on something… and the list goes on. i have been talking to an ex on a social network for about 8 months now. -It didn’t work out between her and this other guy so now shes interested in you, “the nice guy” again. H did not once contact me. my high school love contacted me after a few years of not talking to one another. He responded right away and we sent texts for two weeks before we eventually decided to meet in person. Who in the tristate racist epicenter doesn’t have hostile feelings towards mexicans? move on and find a girl who is not confused, save ur self from heart break because eventually after all this confusing shit she will drop u, so stand up to her and say, if she wants relationship, she can come, but no then its done deal, no going back, give her ultimatum, if she loved u she would not have been confused. So I called her today and she was crying when we were talking and sad . RELATED: The 4 Best Apps To Stop You From Contacting Your Ex. So while I’m awaiting blood work for herpes I call my ex and ask him if he’s been tested for herpes because, prior to this, I was unaware that pp doesn’t test for herpes. but the communication with questions is wrong and it just brings back the communication and familiarity of hearing from them. In most cases it is possible to get back with an ex when you have a positive attitude and outlook. To a man, you have be careful. Aug. 14, 2016. as far as I know that is as far as it went, but I think my fear of her cheating drove her to eventually do so… she got a car and started dating a guy behind my back and she had been living with me at my house with my mom for a couple years then she got emotional with my mom and left… i was not sure why but she had been seeing that other guy and they had been having sex along with smoking a lot of pot etc… She talked to me from time to time and finally she left him because he hit her and she went to live wit her sister… at that point she was tryin to reconcile things with me… at least I thought about a month into reconciliation, her sister tells me she was dating some boy in her neighborhood and I thought she might be hearing gossip but she admitted she was dating him so I quit talking to her “permanently” that was november 2010… it is june 2012 now she sent me a msg on facebook telling me that she was in a bad car accident but that she was ok… here is the msg. 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